Speech: Emotional Value Part III

Introduction

Before I begin, I want to emphasize that emotional value is a significant part of our daily lives and relationships. However, with the rise of the modern Internet, this value has gradually been distorted.

  1. Can Emotions Be Valued?
    “Emotional value” is an intriguing concept in urban society. But have you ever wondered whether our emotions can actually be valued? To explore this, we first need to define emotion: it is our attitude, experience, and behavioral response toward external stimuli. It originates from within and represents our true thoughts.

    In the past, relationships were more authentic, but over time, they have become increasingly transactional. Today, people often evaluate each other based on their utility or benefit. Emotions, which should be the closest bond between individuals, have become entangled in this dynamic. While emotional value is not inherently bad, when used to measure relationships, it can serve as a façade for our endless pursuit of material gain.

  2. Balance and Calculation
    We must acknowledge that the concept of “emotional value” often stems from constant calculation and balancing. In commerce, we assess utility; in personal life, we hope our loved ones don’t calculate our worth. Imagine coming home and your parents refuse to let you eat because they’re displeased with you. How would you feel? (You might want to reconsider this example—it could distract from your point.)

    Similarly, the emergence of “partner culture” reflects the societal impact on friendships. If someone privately says, “I’m friends with them because they offer emotional value,” wouldn’t that upset you? Such transactional thinking taints genuine connections.

  3. Emotional Chain
    Picture this: you’re working or studying, and you have to interact with someone whose beliefs conflict with yours. Both of you suppress your dissatisfaction, pretending everything is harmonious. Eventually, unresolved tension may lead to arguments, public shaming (yes, even hanging names on walls!), or worse, online harassment or even violence.

​ At the outset, your goal was to maintain civility, but when the emotional chain breaks, it causes damage.

  1. Understanding and Adapting to Yourself
    Finally, learn to understand and adapt to yourself. I’m reminded of Ove, a character from Fredrik Backman’s novel. He’s an old man, grumpy and stubborn, yet he silently helps maintain his community and supports his friends, even saving them from being sent to nursing homes.

    The takeaway? Even if you’re not great at offering emotional value, you can still contribute meaningfully to society.

Summary：

Grammar and Sentence Flow: Some sentences were awkwardly phrased. Simplifying them improves clarity.

Coherence: Ensure smooth transitions between points for better flow.

Word Choice: Terms like “dissimilation” and “utilize value” were replaced for accuracy and naturalness.